74. ¿Qué significa estar abierta a la vida? (Baby #6 – Parte 1)

Estar abierta a la vida no es un eslogan catolico.Es una decisión interior que se vive con límites reales, fe y paz.

Hay una frase en el Génesis que siempre me ha impresionado:

“Sean fecundos y multiplíquense.” (Génesis 1,28)

Muchas veces esa frase se escucha como mandato.
Como presión.
Como un ideal inalcanzable.

Pero en este episodio quiero hablarte de algo mucho más profundo.A propósito del embarazo de mi bebé número 6 —a los 43 años y después de dos pérdidas— quiero compartirte qué significa, para mí, estar abierta a la vida en la vida real.

No desde la teoría.
No desde la comparación.
No desde la presión cultural o religiosa.

Sino desde la experiencia concreta de una mamá que no siempre se sintió lista.

En este episodio te comparto:

• El miedo real de volver a convertirme en mamá
• Qué enseña realmente la Iglesia Católica sobre paternidad responsable
• Lo que estar abierta a la vida NO es
• Cómo diferenciar prudencia de miedo disfrazado

Muchas mujeres escuchan “estar abierta a la vida” y sienten culpa o exigencia. Pero la Iglesia no habla de números. Habla de amor discernido.

Si estás viviendo un embarazo sorpresa, cuestionándote qué significa estar abierta a la vida o buscando claridad sobre paternidad responsable, este episodio es para ti.

Episodio mencionado: 

 32. Planificación Familiar de acuerdo a la Iglesia: Conversando con la experta Paola Ochoa (escuchalo AQUI)

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Transcript

Anuncio De Embarazo Y Emociones Reales

Reconfigurar La Vida Profesional Y La Fe

Qué Enseña La Iglesia Sobre Fecundidad

Paternidad Responsable Y Métodos Naturales

Testimonio: Crisis, Confesión Y Consuelo

Planes Propios Vs. Planes De Dios

Mitos, Culpa Y Libertad En La Maternidad

Miedo, Prudencia Y Paz Interior

Cierre Y Adelanto De La Segunda Parte

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Eres de esas mamás que mientras rezan el rosario también piensan en lo que cocinarán para la cena. O mientras trabajas, estás pensando en tus hijos. O mientras estás con tus hijos, solo piensas en que necesitas tiempo para ti. Entonces, llegaste al lugar correcto. Bienvenida a Mindset para Mamás Católicas. Aquí vamos a reír y crecer juntas mientras aprendemos a cuidar de nuestra salud spiritual, física andal. No importa si estás lidiando con pañales, berrinches or con tineños incomprendidos. Este podcast is para ti. Vamos a disfrutar de entrevistas fascinantes, reflexiones espirituales y consejos prácticos para mantener tu paciencia intacta. Porque aquí, if algo sabemos hacer bien, es enfrentar cada día con esperanza, amor ando organizado. Sintoniza cada semana Mindset para Mamas Católicas y únete a esta aventura celestial. Hola, ¿qué tal? Bienvenida a Mindset para Mamas Católicas. My nombre es Eliana Contreras y soy la creadora de este podcast. Y bueno, el día de hoy vamos a hablar de un tema súper, súper personal para mí. Si eres parte de nuestra comunidad y recibes nuestro newsletter cada semana, bueno, ya te habrás enterado de que estoy embarazada. Dios me ha bendecido una vez más y estoy esperando a mi bebé número 6. Dice: Tengan muchos hijos, gobiernan. O sea, sean fecundos y multipliquense. Andas this frase, you know, but I mean much like mandato, ideal inalcanzable. Not desde the theory, not the juicio, not under the comparison, but my reality actually, embarrassed with this number six, aunque in reality is my embarrassing number nine. But I can't talk about the cansancious, incertidumbre, aunque. When I got the result positive, in reality, it was like the felicity, there was like music, nothing. There was silence, and this silence, many things at the same time. I firmly that the life is a regard, but there were things in my mind, you know? For example, my salute, what will happen with all my plans, with the negotiation, with the podcast, with the descans that in this moment I had because I was a situation of salute bastard. And this is catholic, no me hizo a person, no me hizo menos amorosa. Simplemente me hizo humana. It's normal, I'm so perfect, I have my abilities. In this moment, I understand that the aperture of the life empire with the emotion, it empowers with the disposition. I think embrace that reality again for the circumstances, for the situation that you were passing, but my two ultimate embarrasses turned out in my carriage. I don't know how explicitly, much more discernment, confession, to get the point of saying, Señor, if you start this embarrassing, it's because you have plans, and those plans are much more than the measure. Because a part of all the situations, of all the circumstances, of all the problems, of all what we have in control, you will resolve it and you provide, Señor. And it's around me. Nothing else, not the problems, nor my reality, but apparently the pass, you know? Are you having faith? The reality is that it's much abandoned, creerle a Dios cuando estás inmediato, no? Because when you're a mamma who trabajes, when eres a mamma who has projects, that has plans, that is constructed, that embarrassment implicated reconfiguration. It's not another being, it's one version of you miserable that you can see, that will manifest, that will present for all that, no? And for sure, this nervous, but in one moment you understand that the baby, definitively no. They were to the description, to perform the sickly, the control, you have plans and your future in the three years, but when a baby is in this form, you have other plans, when you have other ideas, not seeing what happened, or it's an incertidumbre. I think it's more than this, it's an incertual. But the maternity has been under the control, it has been under confiance and abandonment. I think I would say my soul was many, but I would say that you have in my life the amount for the maternity. A pesar of that, as of my life, as of having in my family much negativity, also my family for my eyes, very comprehensive, very appointment, in theory I'm not encajar with my wings, a lot of one and two ways that I'm talking about. It's something that I don't want to explain, but that is the amount for the maternity in my corner. Hablamos now of what enseña realmente the Iglesia sobre abiertas to the life. But the Iglesia no habla de números, habla de amor. In the catechismo de la Iglesia Catholic, in the numeral 2366, we dice that el amor conyugal está llamado a ser fiel y exclusivo hasta la muerte y abierto a la fecundidad, abierto a la fecundidad. And this is super important because la fecundidad no nada más es biológica, it's una actitud de tu corazón. La misma Iglesia, un poco más adelante, habla acerca de la paternidad responsable y la regulación de la natalidad. ¿Y eso qué significa? Que los esposos deben discernir con conciencia, deben considerar su salud física y emocional, evaluar sus circunstancias económicas, deben dialogar y deben orar juntos, porque la apertura a la vida no es imprudencia, no es actuar sin reflexionar, no es ignorar tu realidad o tus límites reales, ¿no? Y tampoco es buscar heroísmo desordenado. La iglesia nunca nos pide responsabilidad, nos pide amor discernido. I repeat, la iglesia nunca nos pide responsabilidad. Y aquí quiero detenerme un momento porque esto, yo no sé tú, pero a mí me liberó mucho peso. Estar abierta a la vida no significa que nunca puedas espaciar tus embarazos. No significa que no puedas reconocer tu agotamiento, tus propias necesidades físicas, emocionales. No significa que no puedas decir ahora necesitamos esperar. Lo que significa is that no cierres for egoista. It's whether you have this decision from the amount and the confiance in Dios, or the control absolute and the temperature, and this is super, super personal, profundamente personal. You don't know in which part of the history it has distortion. And in the day of the people think that it's an obligation catholic to be and take herself with any type of discernment or planner. I don't know, but this is one of those, or kids, aunque no concept and with the disposition, or the plane seen to the next one. See, the plane with methods natural methods and other methods like the model of Creighton, which I did an episode of this with an expert that is Paola Ochoa. I'm going to get a link for if you want to check out. And then compared to my experience personal. In a whole moment I recuered that you don't know that my husband, I think it was the number one, I said that I was a dormant baseball. I don't want to embarrass. I don't know how I send this to me embarrassing. And one part of me, of my conscience, this was hard. And I heard in my confession with a sacerdote her, and I said that I said with honesty and with humility, it's not embarrassed, okay. I think I said, Liliana, you know that the life of the family is like a jardin, see or no? And I say, what do you think? There are times in which the life is fertile and there are times in the use and tranquilization, but you have to be consciente of that the ultimate, but not with me. And I feel so funny that I said, I think you say that not to all the people this method, the things fertilized function, but in my mind, the thing is that I functioned so, you know, what moment I was in panic, but my life sort of more regular, after my hormonal imbalance was crazy, but in reality it was, and that the people do it, but not. Nothing because I have made it, and the mind is the enemy because we can't hear them. In the Encyclic of San Pablo VI habla precisely of this collaboration between the esposte and the transmission of the beauty. Okay, the Iglesia no is not that hijos, ten hijos, tengo, and no me importa. No, the consciente of the reality social, the reality that we have, there are more enfermedades, that there are more people in the planet, that there are designs social. The Iglesia is totally consciente, and for the Papas emiten these encyclicas once in a while, to audit to caminar, for collaboration. This is impossible, it's automatic, it's collaboration. Remember, they were living for decide, for actually. But this implicated that this liberty is responsible. And for me, this was clear, because I'm not sure that for many years, including in the ambience catholics, escuché messages super extremes, that to have much is the only caminh generous, the only camera that we have a Christian, or that take poor ears is a señal of fear, and that's it. Not one of these aftermaciones reflect the enseñanza complete of our Iglesia. And when Deus permitted the life, it's because he has a plan much more, and it doesn't matter with the méthode or what. No, it's simply sensibly that he has a plan enormous, always totally different for you and for your family, but it's a plan. Before I was my second, I was like, I had to say, Yeah, I'm and I tried to operate me with uh gynacology that I did with my second, and I thought that I said, I did the whole thing, this was here in Canada in this. And I was enough and indignant, because you know, you in this moment in the island, I had my ideas like you were feminist and my life and I indignated. But how do you think? You said nothing, when I go to the hospital, when I say, I'm gonna. But in the hospital, nothing, and I was completely totally. I was like, but I had to operate, I think, but we passed the time, and for one or one, I platinated. And then again, I was very regular, and this was that we asked to cure us, you know, and we used to have other things, no? Again, I was less of the oh surprise, no, I embarrassed my baby number three, and that at the end you were in shock. My husband was in shock, okay, and it was my personal, but I will tell you. But a lot of you used these pastillas of plan B that you in this moment, like you were preventive, I don't know if it were abortive after a long time. But this is another story, you know? They were minimum, super minimum that I was embarrassed. And when I did that I was embarrassed, for me, a shock again because I was that you could, it was trying to educate in my possibilities. And I think you were in a moment in the professionally, I was much to have a which I could design again. No, okay, when you immigrate to a new place, you have to be zero, you know? And I started in a point in the house for a company. I was saying a company of and that me i recommend for my life. Okay, in my plans, I had my plans and my life results, you know. And when I said that I was embarrassed, the way no matter if I don't have an ascension to me, no, and I'm equivocated, okay, no meaning to me. And in this moment, I said I mean the move above, and I was like, No, I didn't have me operated. And I passed my mente the idea to interrump the embarrassment. Okay, I sort of aborted. That was another story of what, but I passed for my mentee. But then at the same time, you said that I mean, you said that I was like, okay, no, no, no, I don't accept it with among. Siempre, siempre, siempre sento que had a relation very well with Guadalupe, and me acuerdo que le dije, madre mía, you don't quiero renegar this embarrassing, no quiero que this sienta that I am, but no séquel. Ayuda me to accept it with amor, to be it with amount, and I acupire, but I'm infarcting that, cambié, and I revised, the mandate an ultrasonic, you know? You jammons had an ultrasonic tan temporary in my embarrassment, but I said, Well, I went to the ultrasonic, and in the ultrasonic tan clear, I saw nothing, but in pace, tan confused, tan, tan, that I judge that meeting the corner. I desapare my ideas, my resentiment from the other doctor. Okay, I'm and this was, that depends on me, and I am enamored totally. Déjame decirte that the Señor me demonstrated that his plans are more than the meal, because I think I didn't have an assension. A part of benefits and when I passed my maternity, I tried to negotiate and regression with them because I had the option to regress with them for the position in which you were, but I don't have benefits, I didn't get the salary, I didn't say what. And I got one that I pay much more, because those benefits were much more than what I had, and the way that I was super gonna be in this house. During more than each year in this company. This baby had bends, but the most important was that this baby was the who's another story totally different, but I think not for an episode, for many episodes, because it's a story, but this would say that was the who the island. Fue the first thing for us with the Seigneur, for our feeling, for cambiar, because our life had an answer and caminos in the island. Definitively. And so, definitively, the plans of Dios siempre are mean that the nuestros de lo que estar abierto a la vida no es. Creo que una de las razones por las que este tema genera tanta atención is because we have confundado concept, como ya te dije, porque no entendemos realmente lo que significa estar abierto a la vida, sobre todo de acuerdo a nuestra fe y de acuerdo a nuestro amado Padre Celestial. Y cuando confundimos conceptos, cargamos culpas que no vienen de Dios. Así que quiero decirlo con total claridad. Para mí, hoy en esta temporada, estar abierta a la vida definitivamente no es tener hijos, pero demostrar santidad. La santidad no se mide en números, se mide en amor. Puedes haber decidido no ser mamá andar profundamente conectada con el Señor. Andrés, and no lo estés viviendo con tanto amor. El número no es el indicador. Tu corazón sí. No es ignorar tu salud. Tu cuerpo is templo del Espíritu Santo, ya te lo he dicho otra vez, esto está in the primer of Corintios. If your salute is physical or mental is compromised, discern no is false of feel it's responsive. This point was very funny for me, because a lot of escuchamos implícitamente that because more hijabs have, more desaparecer from person, but I think firmly that means lider, no means that organization, to enseñar, and entertain those don't the maternity cancela your transforma, lo purification, looks reorden, but not eliminate. The very intimidation of the matrimonio and the oration. Y esta pregunta cambia completamente la experiencia. When se vive como colaboración con Dios, entonces genera paz. La paz, por supuesto, siempre es señal de que estás caminando con Dios. Déjame decirte algo que quizás te incomode un poco. Muchas veces no nos cerramos a la maternidad por prudencia. Lo hacemos por miedo. Miedo a perder el control. Miedo a perder la comodidad. Miedo a que nuestra vida no se vea como la habíamos planeado. Miedo a que Dios nos pida más de lo que creemos que podemos dar. Y el miedo es totalmente humano. Pero cuando el miedo empieza a tomar decisiones por nosotras, dejamos de vivir desde la fe. Estar abierto a la vida no es imprudencia, pero tampoco es autoprotección constante. No es vivir calculando cada riesgo para que nada nos desacomode. Porque la vida desacomoda. Un hijo desacomoda, es la realidad. Un llamado desacomoda, una vocación profunda desacomoda. Y tal vez el problema no es la vida que llega. Es que no queremos mover nuestras estructuras, es que no queremos cambiar, es que no queremos perder cierta acomodidad. Este bebé no llegó para probar nada, llegó para recordarme que yo no estoy a cargo de todo. Y la verdad es que eso es incómodo, pero también es liberador. Así que me gustaría invitarte a reflexionar esa pregunta. Tus decisiones acerca de la maternidad, ¿están naciendo del discernimiento o están naciendo del miedo disfrazado de prudencia? Te invito a que nos accompanyes la próxima semana with the second part of this thing, we're going to talk about the discernment real, when the vida te sorprends with an embarrassing and what the video.